I agree that moms will always be moms but honestly there is a way you can be a mom and also let that kid be independant. He says that its Danis way or no way (which is true) but isn't he the same way? Yeah he is.
Its situations like these that you can simply say "the apple doesn't fall too far from the tree".
I really think that some crazy stuff happened in Danieles life and that is why she does not want to forget about things, or let her dad back in. And honestly I don't blame her. Even though she herself makes fun of Jen, whenever he goes off on people even Daniele gets the look of fear on her face.