I think Memphis really wants to be with Dan in F2. He knows the jury hates Dan and he's golden.
I've been rooting for a Dan/Memphis F2 for weeks now so I hope that happens.
Hear Hear!
I think also that Memphis and Dan respect Keesha's play and know that they could probably win over her in the final 3 round-robin competition and would rather take that chance, out of respect to Keesha's play, than take a chance that Renny could win on a fluke, since she has skated the whole way. As to the loose canon -- hopefully if they rock the boat enough this week, it'll just roll along and off the ship.
In this I can see a huge generational difference that has been skirted, has been pointed at at various times: the younger guys have more respect for women in general, women as people.
Memphis' flying off the handle over Jerry calling him a womanizer -- which is just a kidding term, like saying somebody is a heartbreaker because women/men would be throwing themselves at him/her because he/she is attractive on several levels -- was an instance in which I thought his reaction was extreme. It was a harmless jest, a wink between guys. Besides a generational shift (three of them) being one difference, he's also too young to really get it.
Keesha the other night, when Dan and Memphis and she were talking about "the Colonel wanting it to be just the guys and get rid of the women." said, "I don't know, it's like he thinks, um, like he thinks that women are, mmmm, something less, you know what I mean?" She has been fortunate to have been raised in a nonsexist way and not to have experienced it, or not have seen it in reference to her before -- and she's been in the house all during the primaries, so she hasn't seen what happened to Hillary, who has a man's sensibilities in many ways, "but is still a woman."
Anyway I see a generational shift there as well, as Keesha was thinking that out and seeing it clearly expressed for perhaps the first time in Jerry, with 45 years between their growing into adulthood years.
Renny is in-between and very much "the woman of the house," telling Keesha she should have a baby (the Colonel was too) because that is the be-all and end-all for a woman, not considering that Keesha may not have children for a good reason. Those kind of comments are damaging for people who may have trouble having children: the words ring in your ears forever and make women who don't have children -- by choice or chance or who have children and wonder what they have done to their lives -- doubt themselves. I agree: if you are smart, educated, and good looking, you should have those kids as soon as possible, simply because you may miss the chance later. On the other hand, children are a full-time job. When I was working in public school, I was amazed by the number of women who have young children and were also teaching, The amount of time that goes into teaching -- moring prep, the whole day's activities, homework, planning and the drive to work is easily a 13-hour day. Weekends are spent in preparation for the coming week, and one day of catching up on sleep. Where is the time for the child? In making time for the child -- which must be done -- where is the time for the classroom?
A lot of women claim they can do both. How a teacher can believe this is beyond me, since parental involvement is the most important factor in a child's learning and growing. If a chld is old enough, he/she can be enlisted to help with some of the prep work -- cutting and gluing, like a free teacher's aide, and every teacher knows that one learns more from teaching than from being a student -- so the child can get some quality time and hands-on lessons at home in that way. What about a 4-year-old or a 5-year-old at home, even a baby -- or both?
Long ago, only unmarried women could be in the classroom, and there was good reason for it. Teaching takes exceptional devotion to the job and to the lives with which one is entrusted.
The Chinese have a proverb that says something like
You should love your teacher more than your parents because your parents have to love you; your teacher does not have to love you and does.egad! how did I get to this from the generational shift in views of women?? I guess because I am seeing women moving away from the idea that they can "do it all:" could raise their own children well while they teach others' children well. My mom went back to teaching after my brother was old enough to go to school, getting a lady to be there half day, and quit after one year because it was taking too much time away from caring for her children (thank God! I have the greatest mom who gave us so many rich learning experiences, many of which served me well throughout my schooling and into my job. I don't think that without the attention to my grammar she paid that I would have loved the mechanics of grammar so much and that I would have wound up being a happy ESL teacher, though I trained in Art Education).
A lot of women, like myself, postponed having children and spent time in our careers, figuring that we would be established and financially able to give the children our best, and then wound up not having children, which is the other side of the "We can do it all" error. I didn't get married until I was 33 (and that didn't work out anyway -- one would think that decision-making would be better by then). Other women who postponed having children to make a lot of money did so very successfully and have had IVF and other fertililty treatments. As a result, a certain portion of the very young generation has tremendous expectations weighing on it, even unnatural expectations; teachers have been noticing it for a while: those children are most likely to be the ones whose parents believe can do no wrong, deserve special treatment, are wonderkids . . . because they were, in essence, rare, expensive, purchased commodities.
So yes, Renny leaning on Keesha to have a child is a good and bad thing both. Women have more options now than in the past and can choose which kind of woman person they want to be and should be respected for whatever they are, as these are difficult decisions to make, decisions that are reevaluated every five years or so, in light of life's changes.